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Ten Unselfish Things To do With a Spare Thirty Minutes

I'm sure it's not just me that feels like they never have a spare moment for themselves.  My day is filled with styling appointments (LOVE them!), running the kids to and from school and activities, and writing my blog.  I never feel like I actually have any spare time for myself.

And then I got to thinking.  Maybe I do have a fair bit of spare time, but I'm not using it correctly.  The half an hour in the morning when the kids have done their chores and are having a play, what am I doing?  Well, I'm usually trying to do three things at once, and failing miserably.  Maybe if I just focussed on one thing, rather than many, I'd get more stuff done.

And actually, what do I need more time for?  For me?  For myself?  To make myself look better, or feel better, or what?  I'm not actually sure.  Yes, I could do with a hair appointment, but it's not the available time that's stopping me, but the fact that I can't find a great hairdresser.

Yes, I could do with a manicure.  But then I go and get gels and immediately regret it when I think of the maintenance and my poor nails struggling to breathe under all the chemicals.

My house could be cleaner.  And tidier.  Way tidier, actually.  But what would that achieve?  It would probably make me even crankier with the kids when they make a mess.

So, today, whilst wasting another ten minutes scrolling through instagram when I could've been doing something rather useful for myself, I made a decision.  Rather than stressing over my lack of free time to do things for myself, I decided to "make" some time for other people.  My free ten minutes today, or maybe it'll be an hour tomorrow will be spent doing something for someone other than me.  And that feels rather good.

There is now a culture of "being selfish" with the idea that looking after yourself is more important than looking after others. The "put your own oxygen mask on first" mentality.  And I feel that somewhere along the line we've forgotten how important it is to be kind to others as well as to ourself.

I've come up with a list of ten things that I can do in a spare 30 minutes or an hour, tops, that don't cost a lot of money and will make someone else feel great.

Here goes.

Number One

Write a letter to my mum.  Or my brother.  I am terrible at keeping in touch with my family, who are on the other side of the world.  

Number Two

Go through my closest, or my kids', and put together a bag of things that can be taken to my local women's refuge.  

Number Three

Do the same with my toiletries closet.  All the sample sachets of stuff that I get sent, or get in magazines are incredibly helpful to these women.

Number Four

Find a new charity and give them a shout out on my Facebook page or instagram.

Number Five

Call a friend who is having a tough time and invite them over for a quick coffee (or take coffee to them if my house is REALLY bad).

Number Six

Put the kids scooters in the car and take them to the skatepark with some snacks after school, rather than insisting on homework being done before they play.

Number Seven

Offer to take the neighbour's dog for a walk because I know she works full time.

Number Eight

Take that huge pile of magazines that is gathering dust in the bedroom down to the local doctors' surgery.

Number Nine

Talk to a school mum who is standing on her own.  Make her feel part of the community that we belong to.

Number Ten

Offer a compliment to someone.  Honestly, how long does it take to tell someone you like their dress, or that they did a great job of something?  Compliments are the greatest gift you can give and cost the least.

I hope I've given you a little inspiration on how to use a little of your precious spare time.

Apologies for the lack of style talk today, I'll be back later this week with a post on how to choose the most important piece in your summer wardrobe.

How do you choose to be kind to others?


  1. Wonderful post Vicki, love to hear what you're doing to brighten your little corner of the world in ways that are in addition to being stylish!!!

  2. Much I enjoyed reading your blog

  3. Nice blog.Thanks!

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  5. Great post.Thanks for sharing.

  6. Such a great post! I hope you have a lovely day.

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